Today I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to assume that our significant others know that we love them. Josh and I have been together for eight years – it’s easy to get caught up in the routines of life and take each other for granted sometimes! But I think it’s important to express our love to each other, and often. Everyone likes being reminded that they’re loved! It doesn’t even have to take much time or energy – little gestures go a long way. Here are 15 small ways to show our sweethearts how much they mean to us:
1. Hold hands during “normal” activities (like grocery shopping, driving, watching TV, etc).
2. Make an effort to learn about something they’re interested in. You don’t have to shape your interests to match theirs, just learn enough about their “thing” that you can have an intelligent conversation with them about it.
3. Say “thank you” for everyday things.
4. Hide love notes for your loved one to find: in the fridge, tucked into their favorite coffee cup, inside their closed laptop, on the steering wheel – anywhere they’ll come across it while they’re going about their normal routine.
5. Clean up a mess they left behind, or do their least favorite chore without bringing it to their attention.
6. Buy a candle of their favorite scent so the house feels cozier for them.
7. Share a hobby: play board games, make videos, learn to paint, go hiking, bowling, cook together, exercise, play Pokemon Go, etc.
8. Say “I love you” for no particular reason (those words aren’t only for when you’re being romantic or saying goodbye/goodnight!).
9. Touch your sweetheart casually throughout the day – each time you walk by, rub their back or give them a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
10. Ask questions that don’t come up in daily conversations – things you maybe haven’t talked about in a long time. “Who is someone you admire and why? What is something you love doing that you haven’t gotten to in a while? When was the last time you felt sad and why? What do I do that makes you feel loved? What do you think about ____?” You could also ask each other those 36 questions that can supposedly make people fall in love.
11. Check in when you’re at the grocery store to see if your significant other needs anything that isn’t on your list. Surprise them with their favorite treat in addition to whatever they asked for.
12. Ask if they want a snack when you’re making one for yourself (if you know they’ll want one, just surprise them with it).
13. When you need to apologize, do so without qualifiers.
14. Make a list of your favorite things about them – big and small – and give it to them when they’re having a rough day.
What are your favorite little gestures that go a long way?